Self-love is a state of appreciation towards self that aims to support one’s physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual growth. As healers and teachers, we always forget to practise self-love because serving not refilling has become the wrong way of life. This only hits home when low and dark days bestow us depleting us of energy and service. This needs to change today, so here’s your seven-steps prescription:
1. Become mindful
The antidote to self-love is mindfulness. Be mindful of your thoughts because the brain needs an organized home, be mindful of your emotions because what you feel and say reflects on your appearance and actions. Make your body a beautiful place of worship and let your surroundings channel love and appreciation. Act with this knowledge and everything else will be a breeze.
2. Act on what you need rather than what you want
Turn away from quick fixes that give you temporary pleasure and happiness, for success requires oxygenated blood, sweat and tears. Hard work always pays off and so does prioritising every aspect of your life. What you need is the strength, resilience, commitment and centring, for the fruits of your labour, are everlasting. Turn away from automatic behavioural patterns that will get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past and lessen self-love today!
3. Practice good self-care
A lot of people misinterpret self-care, sure a day at the spa, a day off work, movie night and all those things that tickle your fancy work wonders. But what use are these if you fail to take better care of your basic needs? People high on self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions. Combine the two and boom.
4. Set boundaries
You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are. Been there done that! I realized that setting boundaries was a form of self-respect because you’re responsible for what you allow in your life. Be the CEO of your life, its free and no work or academic experience is required.
5. Protect yourself
Bring the right people into your life. Frenemies come wrapped in sheep’s clothing with ill-intent hidden underneath. There are people who will take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than your happiness and success. Be mindful of this and practice the top four prescriptions to protect yourself. Surround yourself with good people, good energy and those who genuinely want the best for you (experience is your greatest teacher).
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6. Forgive yourself.
We humans can be so hard on ourselves. Taking responsibility for our actions feels like a punishment descended upon by the Gods. Shift that thinking and make forgiveness your partner in crime, because forgiveness releases what doesn’t serve you and nurtures growth. Accept your humanistic traits, because no one is perfect and start loving yourself enough to let go. Forgive yourself for the self-blame, self-hate, self-harm and regret because you deserve freedom.
7. Live intentionally
Accept and love yourself a little bit more. Whatever is happening now is not a life sentence but a life lesson. Live your life with purpose and design because the world is in dire need of healed people. If your purpose isn’t clear enough, meditate on it, God and the angels are ready to remind you of who you truly are. If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, make decisions that support this intention. It’s as simple as that. Feel good about yourself, your successes and accomplishments as there’s nothing better than self-reward. You deserve it!
Now that you’ve been served greatness, don’t forget you matter, you count and you are worthy. A healthy human is a healthy nation and self-love will get your senses hyper-active and ready to serve humanity.
OM Love & OM Light